Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Children of Prophets



The Jewish people are the “children of prophets.” (Talmud)

“I will dwell in their midst.” (Exodus 25:8)

You have a genetic predisposition to think and imagine far beyond the everyday mundane happenings of your life and the physical world around you.  Your inborn capacity for faith is very strong, but it needs to be nurtured and cultivated in order to bring it out.

To bring out your faith you need quiet time away from this noisy world. Why should you miss out and fail to believe in your spiritual powers and their development just because you haven’t learned how to fully utilize them?

Breathe...


Energy levels, mental clarity and emotional calmness improve with proper breathing. In addition, there are so many amazing spiritual benefits to breathing correctly...

How important is it to breath properly? I had no idea! Of course, like most people, I knew that proper breathing is more conducive to good health. As a psychotherapist I’ve spent a lot of time observing the constricted breathing of people who are stressed out - I’ve also noticed how their energy levels, mental clarity and emotional calmness improve when they return to proper breathing.  But I had no idea there were so many amazing spiritual benefits to breathing correctly and how it can so quickly and powerfully change a person’s whole way of life. I want to share a meditation with you that I developed originally to help myself. I can’t put into words what it has done for me; how many ways it has helped me. I hope it will do the same for you… Read more here..


Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Mirror on the Wall


My friend was enjoying the book until we came to a fundamental principle of marriage based on the teachings of the Ariza'l which caused his eyeballs to pop out of their sockets....

Monday, September 18, 2017

Are you Excited about Rosh Hashanah? / Dr. Zev Ballen

Amazing true Miracle stories and inspiration for the sweetest year yet...



When the Blaming Doesn't Stop


When the Blaming Doesn't Stop. What should a person do, if no matter how much praying he does, he just can't seem to stop himself from pinning the blame for his problems on other people... Read more..

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Keeping Heaven on our Minds


When we invariably lose our way in this challenging world, there is a force that seeks to bring us back on track - if we will just yield to it...


Dr. Zev Ballen - Ending the Blame Game



Rabbi Shalom Arush has identified three developmental stages of spiritual development which he calls: Basic Level One-Emuna, Intermediate Level-Two emuna and Upper Level-Three emuna.  Basic emuna is the belief that everything that is happening to us is coming from Hashem and not from annoying or upsetting situations with spouses, kids, bosses, neighbors or police officers. People that annoy us are simply being used by Hashem to test our emuna and give us the opportunity to grow. Level-two emuna is the belief that everything that Hashem does, He does for the very best and Level-Three Emuna is the belief that everything that Hashem does He does for a good purpose.

According to Rav Arush when a person has developed solid level-one emuna, they stop blaming their problems and emotional outbursts on themselves and other people.  Instead, they go directly to Hashem to fix the problem because they know that He and He alone is the One who sent them the problem in order that they should grow closer to Him.

Think about it - how many people do you know are like this, who never blame themselves or others for the painful, frustrating and sometimes tragic difficulties that they go through but instead see their troubles as a sign that Hashem wants them to rectify something in themselves?

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

How to Change Your Emotional State in One Second

Learn how, in literally one second, you can get relief from any troubling emotion.



With Blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen







































































































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Monday, April 3, 2017

Ending the Crazy Eight Parenting Cycle


Do you ever yearn for a better relationship with one of your kids but you just don’t know how to break out of the pattern of tension and conflict that’s developed between you? The longer a negative relationship pattern between you and your child continues, the more doubtful you both become that anything could change it. After a while your child may feel that he or she can almost predict the way you’re going to respond to them. You too may feel that you actually know how your child is going to react even before they do. At those times when your theory about your child was “correct” you may say to yourself, “I knew it…I knew he would do it again…how could he forget to take the garbage out -- again?! That kid will never listen!!””

Every time that your child disappoints you, he also grows more certain that no matter what he does, it will disappoint you. He learns to look for your disappointed reaction to everything he does. You in-turn may be (unconsciously) looking for selfishness or rebelliousness in whatever your child is doing. Then what happens is that your beliefs about them and their beliefs about you become so rigidified and entrenched, that your relationship breaks down. This has been called a “crazy eight pattern” – since you both feel that you’re trapped in a vicious circle with each other that will never end...Continue here...

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Shaping Your Real Identity by Making the Right Decisions


We are making decisions literally every second. Learn how to make the right decisions for you, right now. Remember - Better decisions lead to a better life.
 



Have a wonderful Shabbos and a vibrant, happy and kosher Passover,
Dr. Zev

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

How to Create the Magnificent Life You Deserve NOW


You don't need to wait for any set of reasons to be exuberantly happy, unstoppably confident, or phenomenally successful - you can just DECIDE exactly what you want to feel and start feeling it this second - for no reason other than you are alive...




Have a wonderful day!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Top Strategies to Take Control of Your Life - NOW

There is one main thing that people are looking for - we need to know what that is and how we can get it TODAY?
 



Blessings for a great new week!
Dr. Zev Ballen




















































































































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Monday, March 13, 2017

Action Signals for Relief from Troubling Emotions

Beautiful friends - these guidelines are to be used with my last speech on switching out of troubling emotions instantly. By recognizing the "negative" emotion; determining if your perception is correct or not and then using the appropriate action signal you will have, G-d willing, immediate relief. Without the lecture, the list won't make much sense. Anyway, here it is:


Action Triggers for 10 Emotions

Switch out of negative emotions in one second (change state)

1.      Identify State
2.      Appreciate the Message; what’s the message?
3.      Perception change?
4.      Take appropriate action with the new information

Ten Categories of Emotion and what they signal

1.  Discomfort – Signal from Hashem to just change state to any pleasant resource state
2. Fear – Signal from Hashem to get prepared and have Faith
3. Hurt – Signal from Hashem to counteract loss or perceived loss with connectedness
4. Anger – Signal from Hashem that One or more of your “rules” were violated
5. Frustration – Signal from Hashem you need a more flexible approach
6. Dissappointment – Signal from Hashem to Change your expectations / time-frame
7. Guilt / Regret – Signal from Hashem you violated one of your own standards / become a better person
8. Inadequacy – Signal from Hashem to become better at something
9. Overwhelmed/Hopeless/Depressed – Signal from Hashem to write down a necessity list and desire list. Put desires aside and rank order necessities. Then do something right away on the first necessity on your list
10. Loneliness – Get connected / people / good memories / cause / your good points / Hashem / Torah

How to keep the good state

1.      Think less
2.      Emotions bigger than thoughts
3.      Present focus
4.      Remind yourself of the good
5.      Move your body (motion equals emotion)
6.      Don’t delay action
7.      Judge yourself favorably

Why negative emotions are good

1.      Can improve and grow
2.      Come closer to Hashem
3.      There is no standing still
4.      Can use to feel better right away
5.      Can use to learn to communicate better
6.      Commit to progress not perfection



Productive Pain

One of my favorite memories was leaving home at 16. I wasn’t happy for a long time before that -- but the second my father threw a punch and told me to “get out” my mind was made up. The moment that I saw his fist go through our wall, I knew I was leaving. He was a good father in so many ways and I’m grateful to him for more things that I can list here—but what I am most grateful for, and what I review, now, almost every morning when I wake up, is how he taught me to not be like him and how he taught me that I could never get what I needed from him. I didn’t always know G-d’s light was hidden in pain. I didn’t always know that trauma wasn’t just happening to me but that it was happening for me—but, thank G-d, I know it now.

The whole course of my life changed with that decision because in its wake I’ve been forced to make a lot more good decisions that have built me into the man who I am proud to be today.  I was forced to decide that I will never hit my kids—no matter what, and that I was not going to put my family through what I had to go through. It took time for me to conquer my own rage and wish to lash out, but the necessity to do that brought G-d into my life. I was forced to live a spiritual life and to forsake material comforts. I was forced to live in Israel. Only my pain was strong enough to move me to what I had to do with my life.

Blessings for a wonder Shushan Purim!
Dr. Zev

Friday, March 10, 2017

How to Change Your Emotional State in One Second


This is a great preparation for Purim: Learn how, in literally one second, you can get relief from any troubling emotion, and be happy all year round...
 



Good Shabbos and a very happy Purim!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Granted or Taken for Granted


Scientists who study gratitude and thankfulness are proving that people who see life as a gift and who have a sustained feeling of appreciation for what they have are living longer with greater health, happiness, and success—but why?

What is it about feeling grateful that causes people to live more vital, energetic, enthusiastic and successful lives? How can simply saying “thanks” for the blessings we are “granted” (instead of taking them for granted) improve children’s grade point averages, improve sleep by 30%, and reduce blood pressure and heart attacks? What makes the emotion of gratitude so special, that those who possess it have better marriages than those who don’t? Hint: gratitude is an emotion that not only makes you feel good, but it also leads you to want to do good.

To begin to understand the great benefits that grateful people enjoy, we need to have a clear definition of what gratitude really is in contrast to its opposite—ingratitude. A clear definition is, in itself, a powerful tool. My definition of gratitude: A relationship-strengthening good feeling stemming from you having been granted something of value from G-d from which you have benefited. It is a person’s choice to remember to see everything in life as a gift that was somehow lovingly bestowed upon him by the Master of the Universe.

Why is gratitude a relationship-strengthening emotion? It’s because when we thank G-d for the blessings that He sends us, either directly or through others, we are strengthening our relationship to Him and the other people or institutions through which G-d sends us benefits. We are acknowledging G-d as the primary ultimate “giver” and ourselves as the humble receivers of his Goodness. When we say “thank you” to G-d we are actualizing our primary purpose which is to come closer to Him. By thanking Him we are also honoring G-d. When we honor G-d we are acknowledging his Greatness, Superiority and total authority over us. With our “thanks” and appreciation of what G-d does for us, we actually “elevate” and reveal more of G-d in the world—another common mission for which we were all created.

One of the greatest gifts of feeling grateful is that it protects us against feeling ungrateful which leads people into all kinds of negative emotions and sins. The arrogant ungrateful person doesn’t acknowledge G-d and so he doesn’t have to thank G-d for anything. He either doesn’t acknowledge G-d’s existence or even if he does, his arrogance causes him to forget G-d most of the time. This leads to complaining, resentment, anger, sadness, greed, bitterness and the many sins that these negative emotions give rise to. Gratitude has to do with memory—it’s about remembering to say “thank you” to G-d.

Next week I’ll be writing more about how we can remember to see life as a gift. I’ll be giving you a sampling of the strategies and tips that are helping so many others. Here’s one example: Continue reading here...

Friday, February 24, 2017

How to Take Control of Your Life NOW

Learn how to alter the force that is controlling everything that you think, feel and do...
 



Good Shabbos to all my friends!
Dr. Zev

Friday, February 17, 2017

The Secret of Success

 If you want to live a passionate and inspired life there are three steps that you'll need to take...

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Trauma and Recovery

People who have been exposed to repeated violence and life-threatening trauma fall into three groups, either they: never recover, just manage to cope, or thrive as a result. What's the difference that makes a difference?

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Humility and Faith vs. Arrogance and Heresy

Research shows humble people of faith are far more vital, energetic, enthusiastic, joyful, generous, healthy, better educated and popular than people without faith--But why?









Saturday, January 21, 2017

Turn Self-Blame into Self-Love

Shavua tov, friends (a good week). Anyone who needs more self-love and practices this for 10 days straight, will start loving himself/herself like never before!

With blessings,
Dr. Zev