I am very proud to announce that Rebbetzin Yehudit Channen of Ramat Beit Shemesh has joined the Breslev Israel Emuna Coaching staff.
Rebbetzin Channen is married to HaRav Doniel Channen, the internationally known Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Keter HaTorah in Ramat Beit Shemesh.
Rebbetzin Channen brings to Breslev Israel her many years of experience in the mental health field. The Rebbetzin's rock-solid emuna together with her intelligent practical approach to working with people, have made her a highly successful coach here in Israel - now she will be available to people abroad as well.
In addition to being a gifted healer and emuna coach, the Rebbetzin is known for her beautiful writing. You will certainly enjoy reading her articles which will be featured on the www.Breslev.co.il website in the very near future.
Rebbetzin Channen has my highest recommendation. She is Hashem's answer to my prayers. She is someone whose strength and wisdom and faith I can have confidence in. She is someone with the rare gift of being able to deeply help people in the most personal ways with Torah and emuna. She also has the blessing and endorsement of our Rabbi and teacher, Rabbi Shalom Arush.
Anyone who is interested in a private meeting with the Rebbetzin can arrange to speak with her by calling our confidential line: 718-577-2975 ext. 1(outside Israel) or 02-532-3339 ext. 1 (in Israel). Or email us at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thursday, November 24, 2016
Monday, November 21, 2016
When a baby feels hungry, he thinks about food and the hunger goes away. If he’s cold he wishes for warmth and problem solved. If it’s a bit too noisy in the room, he lets out a cry and that’s that – instant silence…
It’s what psychologists call primary process thinking or magical thinking. The child “omnipotently” wishes for something and thinks that he causes the result. Mommy didn’t do it; he did it through his “all-powerful” thinking. To the infant, mommy hardly exists at all as a separate person – she is still undifferentiated since “mommy and I are one”.
How do we know that the baby thinks this way? Did a baby ever tell a researcher about his fantasies of grandiosity? The question always bothered me. But these days, I have more than science to answer my questions. Keep reading and the next time that you look at your baby not only will you understand “how he thinks” but you’ll understand the fundamental problem of our lives.
The main thing that we all suffer from is nagging doubts about our self-worth: “Do people like me?” “Am I competent at what I do?” “What have I accomplished with my life?” From doubts about our parenting abilities, to doubts about how to use our time best, to doubts about our faith, to doubts about our doubts!! We humans are so obviously using so much of our time trying to prove ourselves to ourselves and to others in some way.
The first question is why do we do this? Why do we need to assert our self-worth and prove our self-worth? Don’t we know that we have intrinsic worth by virtue of the fact that G-d created us and we exist?
The second question is related to the first. Since almost everyone is trying to prove their worth, in some way, the question is how are they attempting to do this? How are people attempting to master their feelings of existential inadequacy?
According to Rabbi Shalom Arush, the prevalent problem of our culture is narcissism and arrogance. We, especially, are a generation which prides itself on “The power is in my hands…”; “I am the master of my fate”; “I am the captain of my ship”; and “the power of positive thinking” (mine, of course) – these and similar expressions show how we moderns think. We like to take credit for any good fortune that comes our way. I’m not sure if it’s still in print, but there actually was a magazine that “modestly” captured the theme of our generation, it was called “SELF” magazine – it’s all about “ME”! Which are what interests people most – THEMSELVES.
It shouldn’t surprise us to know that there is also a psychotherapy by the same name. It’s called “self-psychology”. It’s not hard to see what Rabbi Arush is talking about when he says that our lives are really battle against our outdated arrogant, magical, omnipotent fantasies that we are G-d. This then answers question number two: we try to prove our worth through arrogance, narcissism and the massive denial that we are creations and not the Creator.
But don’t we have to build ourselves and give our children a strong sense of self as a foundation for a healthy life? Is the world really ready for “self-less psychology”? Continue here...
Friday, November 18, 2016
Historians will record the reasons for the "Trump phenomena" as a readiness for change amongst Americans due to political, economic, social, and military concerns - but none of these are the primary cause for Trump's victory...
Thursday, November 10, 2016
It certainly wasn't Mr. Trump's sterling character traits that got him elected. It also wasn't his policies or message that got him elected. So what catapulted such a controversial, despised and inexperienced person to win the most powerful position of leadership in the world? - As you will hear in this informative lecture, Mr. Trump's presidency is actually necessary in order to further the Divine Plan or Divine Aggenda. The obvious question is how? This lecture is a must for any thinking person...
Tuesday, November 8, 2016
The Jewish ideal of a good president is a person, who not only has the right kind of knowledge and skill to run the country, but is also a person whose ethics and morality is beyond reproach. So what is a thinking Jew supposed to do if there are only two choices – voting for an arrogant, nasty megalomaniac or a pathological liar who’s been involved in all kinds of scandals and cover-ups?
Some people say: “Well why should I vote at all!? There’s really no one to vote for! They’re both terrible!” But as anyone who reads this website knows – this is the wrong question to ask. And why is that? Because since we know that everything is coming from G-d, the question that we should all be asking is: “Who does G-d want for president?”
G-d certainly has a plan for us despite how ridiculous the candidates are – so If Donald and Hillary are the only two choices, it must mean that G-d can use either one of them to fulfill a necessary role in moving the world in the direction that He wants it to go. And who knows, perhaps G-d prefers one candidate over the other and that one can get in based upon the behavior of the Jewish people.
So what direction does G-d want for the world? We don’t have prophets today to tell us what G-d wants, but we can make “educated guesses” based on what prophets of old have said and how our Rabbis interpret those prophesies. Everybody knows that the world, as we know it, will exist for 6000 years and then come to an end. After that, many marvelous things are predicted to happen. We also know, from our prophets and Rabbis, that there are very specific events that must take place before the 6000 years come to an end - for example that a Messiah (Moshiach ben Yosef) will come; and that there will be a war between Israel and certain nations (which Israel will win through great miracles); that the Messiah will rebuild the holy temple; and that a second Messiah will then appear (Moshiach ben Dovid) who after 2000 years of exile, with miracles the world has never seen, will elevate the status of Israel and the Jewish people in the eyes of the world in order to fulfill G-d’s Plan for us to serve as the spiritual leaders and teachers for the other nations. These are not just goals for the future, these are events that we know must happen and that G-d is going to make happen one way or another.
The question is really how each candidate might further this messianic process that we are already living through. When we look at the election from the perspective of what G-d wants and not just through the way we naturally think, we don’t have to worry so much about Donald’s incredible narcissism and Hillary’s difficult relationship with the truth. I will examine these qualities and others in the candidates but only to see how they might fit into G-d’s ultimate plan for Israel and the world. Certainly their personalities will effect things in different ways.
There is one more thing that we need to be familiar with before we can fully appreciate how each candidate could possibly fit into G-d’s plan and that is something called the “creation calendar.” Imagine a calendar that has six days and one Shabbos. Each of the six days is 1000 years and when Shabbos comes that is the end of days as we know it. How close are we to the end? We are much closer than people think. Presently we are past mid-day on Friday afternoon. That means all of the above must happen before Shabbos comes plus another 210 years for the resurrection of the dead. The resurrection of the dead will take 210 years because not everyone will get up at the same time. It will depend on how materialistic the person was. The more the person was attached to materialism in this world the longer it will take for him to “get up.” Just imagine how much has to happen in the world even before the resurrection of the dead.
Now having said all of this let’s get back to the election and consider three things: 1. What is the current situation that the next president of the United States is about to face, and 2. What are the psychological profiles of Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, and 3. How do their respective personality styles, personal histories and current day values fit with G-d’s plan for the world.
Friday, November 4, 2016
What does the first Torah reading in the book of Genesis have to do with the 2016 presidential election? This video is a must-see before election day. If you believe in Torah hashkafa, and our holy prophets, you must see this before you vote...
Sunday, October 23, 2016
On Shemini Atzeres and Simchas Torah our job is to find a joy in Hashem and in His Torah that is above nature and above the world as we know it. On these special days we will experience a joy that is higher than our everyday ups and downs and higher than our usual worries and struggles.
In order to experience the ultimate joy that is above this world, we must "meet" Hashem and dance with Him in our hearts. How do we meet Him?
"Atzeres" means "meeting". As holidays go, Shemini Atzeres is on a much higher level than Sukkos. On Shemini Ateres we have "one more" special day with Hashem, after the 7-days of Sukkos that is just for His nation alone. Sukkos is not a holiday just for the Jewish people. We brought sacrifices in the Holy Temple for all of the nations during the seven days of Sukkos. But now, on the 8th day of Shemini Atzeres ("8" being higher than nature; the 7-days of the week; the 7 personality characteristic that we must refine) we connect very intimately with Hashem all by ourselves. The joy of Shemini Atzeres is therefore the joy of connecting to Hashem.
Simchas Torah brings with it another type of supernatural joy and that is the joy of connecting with Hashem's Torah itself.
In Israel we celebrate both holidays in one day. The result of absorbing the joy that will surround us: the joy of connecting to Hashem and the joy of connecting to his Torah, will become so deeply apart of us, that we will be truely happy with ourselves just like WE ARE! - until next year, of course, when we will aspire to reach even more.
Have a wonderful holiday!
Thursday, September 29, 2016
The wife wanted the body cremated; the husband's religious brothers quickly made a proper burial; the wife sued and case went to court, but Rebbe Nachman intervened from above...
Rebbe Nachman made a bold promise that no other tzaddik ever made. He said that for any person who visits his gravesite (even once), gives a penny to charity, and says the ten special chapters of psalms that he selected, he would rescue that person from the fires of hell.
On a scale of one to ten, what level of certainty did I have in the Rebbe's promise?
Admittedly I did not have the same level of certainty in the Rebbe's promise that I had in certain natural phenomena, for instance that the sun will rise and set every day - I believed that with perfect certainty.
It began at 5:30 am on erev Rosh Hashanah. I knew that face. It was my old friend from Monsey, New York - Mendy Wurtzberger. Following the morning prayers, as we walked through the street together, there was a steady stream of people greeting Mendy warmly with utter amazement on their faces.
Feeling a bit lost, I asked Mendy what was going on. He said that something miraculous had happened to him in the last two weeks and that the story had gone viral on the web.
What Mendy proceeded to tell me over a cup of coffee is nothing less than the most amazing modern day Uman story that I've ever heard.There are a number of versions of this story going around; but I heard this one directly from Mendy - so it's the real deal.
Mendy was a successful businessman. He ran a huge plumbing company that had a contract with a Wall street firm. When the firm went belly-up about five years ago so did Mendy's business. It was about that time that someone gave Mendy the idea of spending Rosh Hashanah at the gravesite of Rebbe Nachman of Breslev in the Ukraine.
Prior to coming, Mendy received a phone call from a troubled cousin who said asked if Mendy could meet with a young man from a very religious family who had strayed very far from his Chasidic roots. The young man was married to a woman whose story was similar to his own. Neither of them had had any connection to Torah Judaism for fifteen years.
Good natured Mendy agreed and struck up a friendship with the young man. Since Mendy was heading to Uman in the hope of a blessing from the tzaddik to re-establish his business, he decided to take the young man with him. Reluctant at first, ultimately the young man acquiesced and accompanied Mendy on the arduous journey to Uman.
Mendy told me that the young man did not observe the Shabbos that preceded Rosh Hashanah that year but on Rosh Hashanah itself, he saw him spend the entire first day at the tzaddik's gravesite under his tallis (prayer shawl) pouring his heart out in heart-felt sobbing.
But when they returned to New York, nothing seemed to change for either Mendy or his young friend. Mendy's business situation only worsened, and the young man went back to life as usual apparently unaffected by his brief spiritual awakening.
Eight months later the young man was found in a Florida swimming pool - dead.
There were many more details that I cannot relate here, but this is how the story continued...
With Blessings for a happy healthy new year!
Friday, September 23, 2016
Sunday, September 18, 2016
What’s wrong with competitive sports? Okay, I understand that our Rabbis want us to identify ourselves more with our soul than our body – but the body houses the soul, why not keep it in good working order?
Clearly the problem is not the exercise component of sports (though exercise can be overdone at the expense of developing our spirituality). The main problem is that competitive sports, today, have become a reflection of a sick and competitive society that glorifies “winners” and vilifies “losers” and where the concept of a true victory has been lost.
As someone who was very athletic in my youth, I remember how many good things I learned from participating on sports teams: how sports helped my self-esteem by achieving more than I had achieved before; by learning to accept defeat; by learning to nullify my ego for the greater good of the team. But I also remember how I was taught that winning is everything; that I should have no mercy on my opponent; and that I should be ashamed of myself when I lost.
This summer, Hashem brought all of this into sharper focus for me when I was asked to run a basketball clinic for 30 boys in my neighborhood from very religious homes. They were mostly Israeli boys who knew very little about sports in general and even less about basketball in particular (which is much less popular in Israel than soccer). I’ll admit to you that I did have some hesitation about participating in this venture. Sometime before I moved here, somebody put a sign up inviting people to join a basketball game, and the sign was torn down sparking a whole controversy in town which didn’t end in a good way.
Regardless of the risk of controversy, I really wanted to coach these boys because I welcomed the chance to teach them Torah values in an enjoyable athletic setting. I certainly wasn’t looking to get embroiled in another conflict between the pro-sports and anti-sports factions in my community (where the anti-sports faction was in the majority). Yet, I thought, here I have the opportunity to present these boys with the Torah’s approach to dealing with the challenges of conflict, revenge, competition, victory, defeat, despair – the emotions that sports bring out in people. Since I didn’t think that they were being taught this in yeshiva, I decided to accept the offer.
The first thing that kids need to understand in order to be properly prepared for the competition of sports and life in general, is that the emphasis that the secular world puts on “winning” has very little significance to us. It may feel good for the moment to be the “winner” and to “defeat or destroy” the opponent but this isn’t a healthy outlook according to our Torah perspective. The problem with wanting to win for the sake of winning and trashing your “enemy” (the other team) is that there is nothing permanent about this empty kind of “victory” – sometimes you will be the “victor” and sometimes you’ll be the “vanquished.” And on a deeper level you have done nothing to help unify the world which is our purpose.
In high school, when our team won we were “on top of the world” and when we lost it was understood that there would be no talking on the bus on the way back from the game. It was as though we were sitting shiva (mourning). And for what? A game? We were taught that it was a humiliating disgrace to lose!
What’s a better approach to teach kids? Click here to find out...
Have a wonderful day!
Sunday, September 11, 2016
Wednesday, September 7, 2016
There are some people that always seem to get themselves dragged into all kinds of things that have nothing to do with them. They could be dragged into a discussion or an argument that has nothing to do with them. And, if you ask them why they are getting so involved, they may say that they’re just “curious” by nature, or that they just want “to help” others, or that they just feel so passionate about the issue. In some religious circles, people may even justify their intrusiveness due their “commitment” to finding “the truth” - so they get themselves dragged into all types of nasty controversies that also have nothing to do with them.
Then there are other kinds of people who get dragged off into excessive fantasy land and find it difficult to concentrate and pay attention to what’s going on around them. They don’t know when they are having real thoughts of imaginary thoughts. Then there are people who get dragged into speaking too much. I’m talking about the kind of person who literally can’t stop talking no matter how many times people hint to him to give it a rest or tell him outright: “be quiet already!”
Still, there are other people who find themselves being dragged away by their eyes that look at forbidden sights or dragged away by their stomachs to eat what they shouldn’t eat. There are those who are being dragged into doing excessive chesed (acts of kindness) that go beyond their healthy capacity to give; there are people who are being dragged into learning too much or who are learning subjects that are above their capacity to understand. Then there are those who get dragged into excessive exercise and health concerns; those who are being dragged by the internet, by improper desires, by compulsive shopping, gambling, pic-pocketing – you name it! There is an endless list of emotions, behaviors, object and “goals” that can literally drag a person down. Some people simply get dragged down by mimicking their surroundings and doing whatever they see happening in “society” or in others’ around them.
Our Rabbis have been studying the full gamut of human emotions and behaviors for thousands of years. It’s astounding to me, that the more I delve into what our great Rabbis have written about the soul and the human personality, the more I realize why secular ideas can’t help us at all. The secular view is like looking at the outermost branches of a tree and mistaking the branches for the tree itself. Our Rabbis have written about compulsivity, and impulsivity, and difficulties that people can have in paying attention and concentrating – all from their understanding of the inner-most roots of the Jewish soul – only they can teach us how the human being can perfect his thoughts, feelings and actions. Continue here...
I will be giving a live lesson today on "Why we get hurt" and other topics. I hope you'll be able to join me at 5pm Israel time at: www.breslev.co.il
Have a wonderful day!
Sunday, September 4, 2016
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Wednesday, July 20, 2016
Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Here, I teach a very simple but profound method that can help anybody to clarify their purpose and start living for real...
With Blessings for the greatest success in your life,
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
When people who are feeling sad, anxious, irritable and self-conscious are faced with having to make a decision, they tend to avoid taking action. How can learning about the value of taking action unlock a person's potential?
Every blessing for success,
Dr. Zev Ballen
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Thursday, May 26, 2016
So many of us are dissatisfied with ourselves; we perceive that we’re inferior to others. King David could have made the same mistake, but he didn’t. His secret to success is the theme of Breslev Israel’s upcoming speaking tour in the USA, featuring Rabbi Lazer Brody and myself. We leave tonight! We're looking forward to meeting as many of you, personally as we can. Please see www.breslev.co.il for the exciting details!
With the greatest blessings,
With the greatest blessings,
Monday, May 16, 2016
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Friday, April 8, 2016
In order to feel Hashem's love for us, always, we need a way of turning our "mental knowlege" that he loves us into a deep and permanent "heart-felt knowledge" that He loves us...because "YOU are the children of Hashem your G-d."
I am so grateful to Hashem for this class. It is one of the greatest gifts that Hashem has ever given to me. I welcome your feedback, dear friends.
Have a wonderful Shabbos and a blessed new month of Nissan. Our month of REDEMPTION.
Monday, March 28, 2016
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Friday, March 18, 2016
I've been getting alot of requests for "how to" kind of posts. So for you "tell me what to do types" here are 18 ways that I pray for my own kids...
1. Pray for self-clarification so that you know how you want to raise your child and what are truthfully the best options that you can offer him.
2. Pray to be guided by emuna. That doesn’t mean that you don’t make a great effort to help your child but the outcome is up to Hashem. Hashem will cause your child to go in the way that he needs to go for his own soul-correction. Pray for the wisdom and strength to be able to show Hashem that you will accept the outcome that He ultimately decides upon with gratitude, humility and self-nullification. No matter what - a child needs his parent’s Blessings. Love them unconditionally!
3. Pray for acceptance of the reality that you probably are not going to know “why” your child is behaving this way. Each situation is highly complex and is being orchestrated from Above.
4. Pray to believe that your child’s behavior is not your fault or his; that even if you made mistakes - it doesn’t matter - his behavior is coming from Hashem so there is absolutely no one to blame.
5. Pray to know with complete certainty that Hashem is leading you and your child though a series of tests where you are both are re-visiting “places” from previous life-times to see how you will handle the same situations now. This is one reason that glib advice from some therapist or pediatrician is dangerous.
6. Pray to remain at peace with yourself with your teenager and with your spouse during this process. Turn away from the slightest bit of strife. Never get angry, argue or enter into even “peaceful discussions” with your child that are tinged with even a little aggression. It is better to politely excuse yourself at such times.
7. Pray for the will to throw away all of your secular psychological books on child-raising – literally remove them from your home.
8. Pray to never turn to your pediatrician for his opinions about your child’s behavior unless he submits himself to a Tzaddik – otherwise his advice will probably not be true and will only confuse you and divert you from searching for help from Hashem.
9. Pray for the ability to avoid all standardized theories and techniques about child-rearing. Run away from the use of sophistication and manipulation to “shape” your child’s behavior. Simply pray for your child. Your prayers can completely reverse the situation if you inwardly acknowledge that Hashem is your only hope for salvation.
10. Pray to believe that what Hashem loves the most is the desire of parents to bring their children close to Him by example. Let your children know that you are committed to advocating for them and defending them before Hashem.
11. Pray to be a model of emuna for your child. By engaging in personal prayer you are teaching them how to pray as well.
12. Pray that your children will notice that you also don’t make your own decisions but rather consult with Hashem and His Tzadikkim before doing anything.
13. Pray that you will be able to lean towards chesed (kindness) over gevurah (strictness), with your child, but you need both.
14. Pray to know the Truth - Without Hashem you are just groping in the dark trying to figure out how to raise your children.
15. Pray to accept that the most important gift that you can give to your child is a model for how to speak to Hashem in personal prayer.
16. Pray hard that while your teenager is still in your domain, that you will have the opportunity to influence him by exposing him to your Belief’s about what’s best in life and what leads to the greatest happiness and sense of purpose.
17. Pray to humbly acknowledge that it was Hashem who assigned your teenager the job of rejecting everything that you stand for and to test your willingness to surrender yourself completely to Hashem’s Mercy.
18. Above everything - maintain a loving, caring attitude toward your child. A parent should never ever stop loving a child – even one that he may need to love from a distance in order to protect other children. Never ever stop praying for that child to be able to return safely to your loving arms.
Amen. (feel free to copy it and share it)
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Here are some quick tips for how to get to the deeper issues and feelings within you that need healing. The tips are quick, but the process is not as easy. But with patience and persistence this method can help practically anybody...
Have a wonderful day!
Dr. Zev Ballen
Dr. Zev Ballen