Thursday, May 29, 2014

The Three Principles of Lasting Change

So many people tell me that they have tried to change in some area of their lives but that the changes are temporary at best and they always slide back to where they were before. The reason for this is because there are three principles of change that you need to know first.



Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen


Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Today's Live Broadcast: Unlocking Your Potential


King David wrote: "You [G-d] opens Your hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing." From this we learn that G-d will provide for us based upon how much we really desire something in our hearts. If something seems to be out of reach, a person should examine how much he or she really desires it. Often times we may not desire our goals as much as we thought we did. Once we have uncovered this truth, by strengthening our faith we can receive Hashem's benefits and achieve our goals.

G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chessed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 11:00 AM in NY; 8:00 AM in LA and the West Coast, 9:00 AM Denver, 9:00 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 3:00 PM in the UK, 5 PM Johannesburg and Capetown.

G-d willing, we'll post a link to the broadcast for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. If you have any questions or comments regarding today's lesson, please write to me at: zevballen@yahoo.com. 

Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen

Monday, May 26, 2014

VITAMIN E: NORTH AMERICAN TOUR


How exciting! After months in the making. Just look at the wonderful itinerary that Breslev Israel has put together. It's been 4 years since I made aliyah with my family and four years since I was in the States. Only Hashem could be sending me back for this kind of a visit. I hope I'll get to meet you with as many of you as possible!


Racing the Old Man


Nathan's father and grandfathers had learned full time in yeshiva.  In Nathan's family, it was expected that he too would learn in yeshiva.
 
The problem was, that unlike his father and grandfathers, Nathan found it very difficult to sit and concentrate for all those hours. After a while, he would stop enjoying the learning and start to feel sad.
 
About 3 weeks before the holiday of Succos, Nathan's friend Noah said to him: "Hey Nathan...do you see that abandoned parking lot? It doesn't really belong to anybody. I've got a good connection to buy lulavim and esrogim (two of the 4 species used on the holiday of Succos). Why don't we buy them cheap and sell them right here in this lot?"
 
"Sell them here? But there's no electricity," said Nathan.
 
"No electricity!" C'mon man, we'll ask the old lady next door if we can run a wire through her window and we'll have electricity!"
 
So they went and bought a big load ofluvavim and esrogim. They sold that load and went and got another load and another load. Three weeks later, Nathan's share of the profit was more money than he had ever made - and he had made it in three weeks!
 
Nathan invested his money in stocks and did very well. Within a year he had made $100,000. 
 
Somebody noticed that Nathan had a talent for seeing patterns in the way stocks worked. He introduced Nathan to his boss and before long Nathan was making money working for an investment firm. Within a year Nathan made a million dollars.
 
Nathan had a gift. 
 
The evil inclination saw an opening and attacked Nathan's ego.
 
Nathan started living the "good life" but it was no longer the "good Jewish way of life."  He moved into a very fancy house - bought expensive cars and started partying every night. Nathan wasted money on more cars, suits and vacations than he would ever need. Worst of all, Nathan fell into lust and found himself acting with disloyalty to the person who had loved him and stood beside him more than anyone   - his wife. 
 
Hashem put the finishing touch on Nathan with the coming of the economic crash, and he lost everything that he had. Almost overnight, Nathan had no money. His cars were repossessed. His "friends," who had just used him when times were good, were gone -  and Nathan's wife too, knew that he had strayed and wanted a divorce. 
 
Nathan dragged himself to the bank. Based on his income for the past year, the bank gave him a loan for  $150,000 -  but this only made Nathan feel worse. Not only didn't he have any assets, but now he was a debtor. 
 
Nathan didn't want to live anymore. He was up the whole night thinking.
 
As the sun rose, Nathan headed down to the shore. He looked out at the water and thought about tying a rock to his leg and jumping in. 
 
Suddenly, Nathan heard a voice coming from behind him: click here to continue...


Here's more great reading...


By Rabbi Lazer Brody - The Support Troops

By Rabbi Shalom Arush - Falling in Fantasy

By Rivka Levy - The Snake's Torah

Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen


 

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Hot off the Press: The Ultimate You - Using Emuna to Break Through Personal Barriers

My new book, The Ultimate You: Using Emuna to Break Through Personal Barriers, is the first book of its kind; it is a product of my total immersion in the teachings of Rabbi Shalom Arush on emuna for the past four years, and as such introduces the world to a revolutionary new method of personal change which I call Emuna Coaching. 

Here's what my esteemed and beloved colleague, Rabbi Lazer Brody has written about The Ultimate You: "In a rare display of academic and professional integrity Dr. Zev Ballen realized that any treatment of negative emotions that does not acknowledge the G-dliness of the soul and its spiritual needs is like going to a vegetable vendor to repair your Mercedes. Dr. Ballen has consequently crafted an effective and revolutionary system of Emuna Coaching, which he describes in this easily readable and highly enjoyable book. The Ultimate You - Using Emuna to Break Through Personal Barriers is a book that I am pleased to endorse and highly recommend."

The book is filled with dozens of stories of real people who have successfully used emuna to break though their personal barriers; it is packed with 380 pages of practical workbook-style strategies and tips including numerous charts and questionnaires to chart your progress! 

So don't wait to get started on your journey to your Ultimate Self. Once you start, you'll never want to stop.

To order just click on the book's cover picture below: 


Saturday, May 24, 2014

Our Higher Needs: The Complete Video

What are the basic emotional needs of human beings? Would you be happy if all of your emotional needs were met? Or, would you still need something more to feel completely fulfilled?





Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Friday, May 23, 2014

North American Tour: We're Coming Soon!


Here's our tentative schedule for our upcoming trip to the U.S. and Canada. If you would like to arrange a personal meeting with me or Rabbi Brody, please contact Aharon. From outside Israel: 1-718-577- 2975 or Israel Direct: +972-2-532-3339 x1 - you can call anytime between 3 pm - 11 pm Israel time. Aharon's email: Staff@breslev.co.il

June 8-9      Toronto
June 10       Washington, D.C.
June 11        Baltimore, Maryland
June 12        Brooklyn, New York
June 13-15  Seattle, Washington  
June 15-16  Phoenix, Arizona
June 17-18  Miami, Florida
June 19-20  St. Louis, Missouri
June 22-24  New York (Airmont, Five-Towns)

I wish I could meet all of you personally!

Here's some inspiration for Shabbos. It only takes a moment to change a life long global belief as this personal story poignantly reveals. 



Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life and a wonderful Shabbos!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Thursday, May 22, 2014

What's a Break Through?

What's a break through and how do you know if you've had one? Listen to this. It only takes 1 minute and 45 seconds.




Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Today's Live Broadcast: Our Human Needs



All of us have basic emotional needs that we find a way of getting met one way or the other; sometimes in empowered ways; and sometimes, unfortunately, in dis-empowered ways. Join me today at 5 pm Israel time when I'll discuss the connection between how we get our needs met and our ability to feel truly happy and free.   

G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chessed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 11:00 AM in NY; 8:00 AM in LA and the West Coast, 9:00 AM Denver, 9:00 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 3:00 PM in the UK, 5 PM Johannesburg and Capetown.

G-d willing, we'll post a link to the broadcast for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. If you have any questions or comments regarding today's lesson, please write to me at: zevballen@yahoo.com. 

Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen


Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Get a Vision

It takes much less guts to be a pessimist than to be an optimist. We all need a vision of what we can accomplish that is compelling and pulls us to stretch ourselves beyond what we've tried before. This clip only takes a minute and a half to watch, but who knows, maybe it will be just what you or somebody you care about will need to make a new start in some area of your life. Enjoy!




Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Monday, May 19, 2014

Purim Gift or Murder?


Rabbi Twinkle is an exceedingly friendly person. He smiles and greets everyone who comes into his synagogue with a handshake and a good word. His friendliness combined with his genius in Talmudic logic and knowledge of the Jewish Codes of Law, have made him a very popular figure in yeshiva circles. Rabbi Twinkle has established his own yeshiva and even prominent Rabbis attend his lectures.
 
Considering his high level of Torah scholarship and community service, there has been an aspect to Rabbi Twinkle that didn't make sense to me -  at least to my American mentality. The Rabbi doesn't hide the fact that he's a smoker. The Rabbi can routinely be seen, by the youth of his community, puffing away in front of the synagogue while on break from his learning -  a practice that his own teenage son has begun to emulate. 
 
But the straw the broke the proverbial camel's back...what I personally witnessed the Rabbi do on Purim night, was so horrific that part of me still refuses to believe my own eyes. Continue reading right here...


Don't stop here, there's more to read...


By Rabbi Shalom Arush - Lenient and Serious

By Rabbi Lazer Brody - Count on Rebbe Shimon!

By Rivka Levy - Roots and Pink Roses

Wishing you the greatest blessings of your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen
 

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Great Marriages: The Full Video

This lesson will show you the powerful relationship skills that make for great marriages. It is a comprehensive overview of the many specific skills that we teach couples in our marital coaching program. I hope you enjoy it!



Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen




Friday, May 16, 2014

Love and Passion


There is no amount of money, prestige or success that can make up for the emptiness of a marriage without love. The good news is that there is a simple formula for getting back the love you've "lost" and much more!




Wishing you the greatest blessings in you life!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Thursday, May 15, 2014

The Secret to Living is Giving

It's been said that the "secret to living is giving." Today's practical tip will inspire you to raise your own standard and start giving even more than you have in the past. If you've got 1.5 minutes, here's how...



Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen





Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Today's Live Broadcast: Great Relationships


Great relationships don't just happen by themselves. They require commitment and hard work; but it's "work" that will add a higher meaning to your life and light up your life like nothing else can. Why not join me today at 5 pm Israel time when I'll share with you what I see happening in really successful relationships that make them what they are.

G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chessed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 11:00 AM in NY; 8:00 AM in LA and the West Coast, 9:00 AM Denver, 9:00 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 3:00 PM in the UK, 5 PM Johannesburg and Capetown.

G-d willing, we'll post a link to the broadcast for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. If you have any questions or comments regarding today's lesson, please write to me at: zevballen@yahoo.com. 

Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Ari's Rebellion


Ari Friedman was fed up with thinking he was dumb and couldn't learn...he was fed up with being taunted by his peers... He was fed up of his parent's constant fighting. Desperate to feel some personal significance and fulfillment in his life, Ari dropped out of yeshiva and began to explore the "world" outside of Hashem and his Torah.   
 
The first time Ari broke Shabbos to smoke a cigarette and watch a movie on his phone he felt surge of "power" and "revitalization."  To him, his act of rebellion felt as if he had triumphed over his parents and over G-d. 
 
Years of pent up anger towards his parents and Torah Judaism broke through Ari's compliant veneer. Mr. and Mrs. Freidman felt powerless as they watched their son systematically discard every religious devotion that he was raised to perform. He stopped putting on tefillin and praying. He ate food that wasn't kosher. He stopped washing his hands and saying blessings. He stopped going to synagogue. He cut off his side curls, and wore torn jeans and an ear ring instead. He cursed his parents and spoke inappropriately to his younger brother and sister. He openly violated the Shabbos in front of his family, in effect, tainting the spirit of the day for his whole family. He stayed out all night and slept all day. He came home intoxicated and slammed doors and cabinets when his family were trying to sleep. His room reflected the chaos that had infected him. He brought home unsavory friends. He started smoking and driving a motorcycle. He stopped helping his parents and refused to clean up after himself. But even more alarming than the external manifestations of his moral decline, was the deterioration of Ari's soul.
 
Ari began to mock the ways of the Torah and to sympathize with people who were attacking Israel and a Torah way of life. He couldn't bear to hear about anything that was holy. He totally immersed himself in music that was filled with spiritual impurity in order to block out Hashem.
 
At first, Ari's parents fought back. They also felt resentful and angry toward their son. But their yelling and sermonizing only put more distance between them and Ari. When the Freidmans understood that they were in danger of losing their son completely, their anger abated and they stopped showing disapproval of their son's behavior. Mr. Freidman, who was the primary target of Ari's rage, made a 180 degree turnaround. He started to show Ari more love and attention than he ever had before.
 
Alas - Ari's condition only worsened...
 
He started hitting his siblings and pushing his parents when he got angry. Even after three therapists and two anti-depressants, Ari was still out of control. 
 
The Freidmans had reached their moment of truth. They had exhausted everything that they knew about child rearing and were receptive to a new approach. They were shocked when they were advised to stop all of their efforts to change their son and change themselves instead - but they took this advice to heart. 
 
Mr. and Mrs. Freidman learned that Ari was acting out the anger and resentment that Mrs. Friedman felt towards her husband and his self-centered form of Torah observance. Mrs. Freidman felt that a religious lifestyle had robbed her of the love and attention that she needed from her husband. It didn't help Mrs. Freidman to be married to a Torah scholar who completely ignored her needs. She wanted a real partner to enjoy life with. Mrs. Friedman rebelled against her husband's cold treatment by slacking off on her own religious observances.
 
Ari grew up hating his father for making his mother feel sad, lonely and like she wasn't enough. Hashem used Ari as a mirror to show Mr. Freidman that the only way that Ari would accept his love again would be if Mr. Friedman showed more love to his wife. Hashem also used Ari as a mirror to show his mother that if she wanted her son to return to Torah observance, that she needed to strengthen her own observance; and instead of rebelling against her husband, Mrs. Friedman needed to communicate with her husband. 
 
Mr. and Mrs. Friedman worked on themselves in earnest and the more they did, the more they saw an improvements in Ari's condition. Mr. Friedman became less self-occupied and started "reading between the lines" with his wife. He helped his wife without her having to beg for it or demand it. Mrs. Freidman's loneliness dissipated, and she felt loved and cared for by her husband for the first time in their marriage; in turn she tightened up on her own religious observance. It wasn't too late - with strengthened emuna, Mrs. Freidman became a more authentic role model to impart real Torah values to her adolescent son.  She became able to speak to Ari more convincingly  about the Torah, and Mr. Freidman was able to stop his lectures which had only put Ari to sleep.
 
Ari saw that instead of preaching to him, his father was using the Torah to make his mother more happy and fulfilled. He also saw his mother enjoying Judaism, for the first time, instead of doing the mitzvos in a begrudging manner. As a result...Continue reading here...


Looking for more to read?

By Rabbi Lazer Brody - Rabbi Akiva's Fox

By Rabbi Shalom Arush - Darkness Before Light

By Rabbi David Charlop -  Computer Caution

By Rivka Levy - You Get What You Need

Wishing you the greatest blessings in your life!
Dr. Zev Ballen

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Precious Moments


This practical tip shows you how to recapture and share the precious moments and stories that can revitalize your relationship.




Wishing you the greatest blessings of your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen


The State of the Union


The Key to making the state of your marital union one of love and excitement doesn't just happen on its own. Great marriages need to be cultivated and continuously re-inspired and re-vitalized. But if your relationship isn't there yet, don't despair. If both you and your spouse faithfully apply the fundamentals of this lesson, you will find a higher meaning in your marriage that will for sure propel it to the next level.



Wishing you the greatest blessings of your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen



Friday, May 9, 2014

Where's G-d?


If you or someone you know is skeptical about the existence of G-d let them watch this! 




Wishing you life's greatest blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen



Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Finding Your Purpose


There is something that we all need to do before we can do anything else and that's know our purpose. Here's my tip for how you can find yours. Enjoy!




Wishing you the greatest blessings of your life,
Dr. Zev Ballen





Today's Live Broadcast: The State of the Union





The challenge in marital relationships and in every area of life is emotional fitness. If you aren't able to manage your emotions you won't be able to manage your relationship.  I've noticed patterns that put people in happy emotional states and patterns that put people in unhappy emotional states. Most of these patterns are common sense. But how often do we notice that common sense isn't so common?


G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chessed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 11:00 AM in NY; 8:00 AM in LA and the West Coast, 9:00 AM Denver, 9:00 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 3:00 PM in the UK, 5 PM Johannesburg and Capetown.

G-d willing, we'll post a link to the broadcast for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. If you have any questions or comments regarding today's lesson, please write to me at: zevballen@yahoo.com. 

With Blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Finding Your Gift

Many of the people that I speak to are overachievers. They are bright enough and talented enough to learn how to do dozens of things. The essential question for all of us is: which of the many talents that we have, is the one that pulls us most passionately and do we enjoy the most? This is because success without fulfillment can't be considered success. So why not watch this little clip. I made it for you, dear friend. If you haven't yet discovered your calling in life, may this help you to find it soon. And, if you are already doing what you love, I hope you'll use this to help someone that you know.




With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen

Monday, May 5, 2014

Breaking Behavioral Patterns


Are you tired of hearing the same old discouraging thoughts and falling into the same unproductive activities? Check out my tip for today. It's a quickie...





With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Hit Your Target

What are you shooting for in life. The more clarity you have about this, the easier it will be to hit your target.




Thursday, May 1, 2014

Emuna Market


A woman sent her husband grocery shopping with nothing but emuna to pay for the food. This is a must see! 






With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen