Saturday, August 31, 2013

The Right Turn

How do you prepare for Rosh HaShana? Watch this!



Wishing that you and your loved ones are written and sealed into the good book of life for the new year!

Dr. Zev Ballen


Thursday, August 29, 2013

Serenity

If you want a better life but don't have the time to think about too much at once. Just focus on this...


Wishing that you and your loved ones will be written and sealed into the good book of life for the new year!
Dr. Zev Ballen



Traveling to Rabbi Nachman


"...no matter how great the severity of the judgement and no matter where in the world it threatens, everything is sweetened when Jews gather around the Tzaddik on Rosh HaShanah. With so many Jewish souls gathered together and merged in abundant love, a wonderful joy and delight come into the world."

~ Rabbi Nachman of Breslev

Wishing that you and your family be inscribed and sealed in the good book of life for the new year!

~ Dr. Zev Ballen

From: Advice by Rabbi Nachman. Translated by Avraham Greenbaum. Breslov Research Institute. 1983.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Today's Live Broadcast: A Turn for the Best


G-d is not looking for perfection from us on Rosh Hashana. He simply wants to see our willingness to improve by turning in the right direction. 

G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chesed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 9:45 AM in NY; 6:45 AM in LA and the West Coast, 7:45 AM Denver, 9:45 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 2:45 PM in the UK, 4:45 PM Johannesburg and Capetown, 4:45 PM Israel. G-d willing, we'll post a link to the lesson for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. Enjoy the broadcast!

With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen


 





Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Psycho-Babble

Psychoanalysis
Image Credit: Carlos Ferrer

I estimate that in my nine years of psychoanalysis I spent nearly $150,000 - that was during the late 1980's and1990's. It's much more costly today - and no, I was not cured. No regrets though - because I did find something valuable in all that psycho-babble....I talk all about it in: My Voice.

Have a great day!
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Dr. Zev Ballen

Monday, August 26, 2013

Guarding Our Minds




Throughout the ages, there have been so many people who devoted their lives to "the pursuit of wisdom." But if we really want to achieve pure wisdom, and to live the Divine wisdom that G-d is making available to us all the time, then we need to protect our mind and guard our eyes from things that could damage us. The eyes in particular are commonly known as "the window of a soul"; you let something nasty in through your eyes, and your soul gets zapped with it and instantly damaged. So if you're in the presence of something that it's forbidden to look at - close your eyes! G-d gave us eyelids for a reason! We need to close our ears too, even though in some ways, that's even harder. I know people who carry earplugs with them to block out "damaging" sounds; but we could also use an MP3 player that's full of our favorite holy tunes, such as Rabbi Brody's latest CD, or an inspiring torah lesson, that we can plug into when we need it. 

Remember, our minds are compared to the Holy of Holies. That was the holiest room in the holy temple, when it still existed, and it was a special chamber that only the chief kohen, or High Priest, could go into, and even He was only allowed to go into that room one day a year, on Yom Kippur, when he was required to perform a special service to atone for the sins of the Jewish people. In the days of the corrupt, politicized High Priests, that occurred a few decades before the temple was actually destroyed, they had to keep pulling dead High Priests out of that special chamber by a rope attached to their foot, because not one was sufficiently holyenough to survive the experience.

No-one could go in there to drag the dead High Priests out, because it was the holiest place on earth, where G-d said: "You can't look at Me and live!" Just like the Holy of Holies, our minds are also that holy, and also that precious. That's why we have to make every effort to sanctify our minds, and to pursue holiness. The rewards, if we do this, are simply indescribable. Imagine a life where we actually feel happy, or calm and content, or "relaxed". When was the last time you could really just sit and feel all these things, without a million different worries and pressures trying to crowd in on you, to rob you of your peace of mind?

In my work as a psychotherapist, I used to do a number of "de-conditioning" procedures to help people who were struggling with phobias or panic attacks, or other high-anxiety issues. One of the things I came up with...Continue here...


Also Featured this Week:

By Rabbi Shalom Arush - The Ultimate Test

By Rabbi Lazer Brody - Boloney

By Rivka Levy - Healthy and Normal

By Shellie Berman-Grafstein - My Kidney with Love

By Rivka Levy - Six Steps to Purity

By Natalie Kovan - Don't Shortchange Motherhood

By Rabbi Nissan Dovid Kivak - War of Negative Thoughts

By Rabbi Lazer Brody - The Color of the Sky

By Ari Davidson - The Beginning of the End

By Rabbi David Charlop - Religious? What For?

With Blessings,

Dr. Zev Ballen

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Thinking Straight


The most joyous, peaceful future comes to those who commit themselves to believing in the power of calmness and patience from one moment to the next.


Blessings for a great new week!
Dr. Zev Ballen


Friday, August 23, 2013

Thought Control


The question that I'm asked most frequently is: "How can I gain control of my thoughts and my moods?" Here's my best two and a half minute answer.



Good Shabbos,
Dr. Zev Ballen


Thursday, August 22, 2013

The Tale of a Mouse

In this delightful animated story, we learn that those who refuse to help other people often end up needing help themselves. Don't miss the opportunity to help someone in need...



With blessings,
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Dr. Zev Ballen

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Today's Live Broadcast: Self-Soothing


The most joyous, peaceful future comes to those who commit themselves to believing in the power of calm patience one moment at a time.

G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chesed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time. The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows: 9:45 AM in NY; 6:45 AM in LA and the West Coast, 7:45 AM Denver, 9:45 AM Mexico and Central Daylight; 2:45 PM in the UK, 4:45 PM Johannesburg and Capetown, 4:45 PM Israel. G-d willing, we'll post a link to the lesson for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:01 AM  Sunday (Israel time). If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here. Enjoy the broadcast!

With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen


 


























































































































Dr. Zev Ballen

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Living in the Moment


Emuna or faith is having the patience to live in the moment. It is born of our belief that since this is what G-d wants, that our lives will progress most peacefully, most contentedly and most meaningfully if we commit ourselves to living with total presence and authenticity in each moment as a disciplined practice.

We ask G-d to guide us by helping us to live in the moment and not jump ahead to worrying about the future, or going back to the past to persecute ourselves about what can no longer be changed. We pray for Him to show us the right path, and to help us pursue it.

When we let go of "what next" type thinking and have the courage to be fully present in the "now," we are demonstrating our faith that although the future is uncertain, unpredictable, unknown and out of our control that the most joyous and peaceful future comes to those who trust in it by staying focus on being calm and patient right now.

Living in the present does not mean that we don't set goals and make realistic plans for the future, it simply means that we do it in a less obsessive and impatient way. Living with faith means that once we "plan our work" that we "work our plan" in a more humble faith-based and trusting way. We proceed moment-by-moment with our goals still before us but with lowered expectations and implicit "demands" that our will must prevail. We remain committed to living calmly, patiently and optimistically  even when things are not going our way.

With blessings,
Dr. Zev Ballen








































































































Dr. Zev Ballen

Monday, August 19, 2013

"Failed" Relationships


As an Emuna Therapist, I get asked by people all the time: "How do you listen to people's problems all day long?" They tell me that they're really sorry to "lay all this stuff on you", or "to dump all this stuff on you" - and truthfully, in the past there were times when I felt overwhelmed by all the negativity. But not anymore, because when people are telling me how bad their lives are, I'm sitting there thinking it's not bad at all! 
 
Recently, I had one client who thinks that he's a real loser and that he's never going to get married, The man, let's call him Benny, is not a young guy, and he recently came out of a five year relationship that he thought was going the whole way. He was so in love with this woman, and he felt it was the first time that anyone had ever showed him true love, and then - she abandoned him. Not only that, when Benny tried to reignite the relationship, the woman got extremely upset and complained he was harassing her. 
 
Benny went into a deep depression, and before long, he ended up on all sorts of anti-depressants. There he is, in his lonely life, working in a menial job well below his intelligence level, and he's stuck on this failed relationship and still thinking about this girl and how good she was for him. He doesn't have G-d in his life yet, so he's feeling boxed-in and miserable, but I don't see things the same way, because it's clear to me that G-d didn't want this relationship to work. I tell Benny that he's so blessed that he didn't stay with that girl, because G-d forbid that they would have started a family together, and then she would have run off!  We all know that it causes almost irreparable damage to a child, when a parent runs off. They feel so broken and unloved, and G-d has spared Benny all that heartache.
 
I told him that I'm 100% sure that G-d already has someone better suited for him lined up, but before He can show Benny who that is, He's waiting for him to let go of this failed relationship. "Let go! You're trying to be G-d, and you're trying to dictate the terms of your life, but that's not accepting reality, to say it has to be her and no-one else. G-d has sent you a clear sign that this woman wasn't for you. It was a learning experience that He sent to you to prove that it ispossible for you to have a marital relationship, and to love and be loved. Continue here...


Also featured this week:

By Rabbi Shalom Arush - The Gray Area

By Rabbi Lazer Brody - The Teshuva Melody

By Rivka Levy - Little Miss Angry

By Rivka Levy - Pulling His Own Plug

By Racheli Reckles - Nowhere to Run

By Rivka Levy - Reflections of an Uman Wife

Blessings for a great day!
Dr. Zev Ballen
























































































































































































Dr. Zev Ballen